Men think with their dicks.

So I had another one of my “astute” observations yesterday about this statement, “Men think with their dicks” and it got me thinking.

I’ve never, not once, in all my years of being the proverbial “slut” and getting major… *ahem* MAJOR hurt by past boyfriends, boylets, doshu (remember THAT word, kid sisters? =) and all the other euphemisms we used to refer to guys we dated/hooked up with… did I ever think that the fact that “some” men thought with their dicks… was a bad thing.

Of course I think some men think with their dicks.

No doubt about it.

But there’s really no point in blaming men for that.

Especially if you’re a woman who is sexually active (ok, or not-so-active just no longer a virgin =).

(I’m gonna try to be linear here; it’s much harder to type than to talk.)

See the thing is… when some women get hurt or whatever, they think they can just go off and say something like “Oh, because men think with their dicks… they have no balls, yadayadayada” And frankly, I don’t find that to be a very sound argument. Now I’m no misogynist --- I love my fellow females right down to the vaginal core. But ladies, if you wanna be taken seriously (especially the ones who scream “feminism” and what not), don’t go blaming the man just ‘cause he’s a little bit horny. I mean seriously. You can’t come off like you’re all high and mighty, ready to judge and condemn a man for thinking with his downstairs then AT THE SAME TIME imply that you were this deceived, unknowing victim.

C’mon. Even I’ve never stooped so low. And if you honestly put yourself in the highest regard, even if some of your decisions aren’t exactly something Mother Teresa would do, you would know not to at least, dumb yourself down and just blame someone else for your own shortcoming or lack of foresight.

Nah mean?

Anyhow…

My anthropology teacher back in college once said that if there’s one thought that has spanned across cultures, time, and countries it’s that MEN USE LOVE TO GET SEX, WOMEN USE SEX TO GET LOVE.

Now that actually stuck with me over the years and if you really think about it, it makes us no better than the other.

Like, if women are able to say “men think with their dicks” and make it out as an insult, men could just as easily argue that “women think with their hearts.” ---- neither anatomical part coming close to what we REALLY use to think.

(Uh, the mind, people… lest you’ve lost it. =)

So… yeah.

The point is… (my thoughts are seriously garbled right now so just try to follow)

Ladies…

If you like this guy enough to have sex with him… for whatever reason (ie. you want to show him you’re sincere and that you love him, you want to rekindle the cold embers of your dying relationship, or you’re just plain horny… or Hell, bored, even)… and you don’t get the result that you want (ie. he doesn’t love you back, he’s leaving you anyway, he “came” first, he stopped midway to play ball with the boys), don’t go blaming his overzealous, unthinking DICK.

Dicks don’t think. They’re just there looking all awkward and shit, waiting for some girl with her heart on her sleeve to feed it… like a duck in the park or a fish. (Hahahaha, I dunno where I got that metaphor, it was just funny imagining it =). Now unless you’re fucking raped and this is completely against your will, you have no right to play a double-agent for the schools of feminism and conservatism.

So if you truly believe that “men think with their dicks” and don’t like it…

Then stop spreading those legs expecting that the next dick will be fucking intelligent and it’ll feed you knowledge and shit.

A man who thinks you’re intelligent (this meaning, you have an overall grasp of your true self, faults and assets and all) would give you his dick AND heart.

Right guys?

….

Right…?

*cue crickets*

(I bet it’s their dick thinking right now whilst reading this.)