Align the Chakra, kids.

"In desperate love, it's always like this, isn't it? In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding that they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place." --- taken from Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert


Ain't that the truth. *extends high-five to nearest girl-friend*


So I hear alot of couples have been breaking up recently. Couples that have been together for years... and I mean, yeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaarrrrrrrsssssss.

How does that happen?

How do you just... fall out of love? (Ok, I'm not stupid, I actually KNOW how this happens and I don't really need an explanation because chances are, I know the reasons better than those who have actually been in a relationship for years and years and years. Hell, I must've mastered the art of falling out of love... just as I've mastered falling right back in it.)

It's a sad rhetorical. But plainly, it's just sad. And discouraging.

***Our editorial asst. Danee (who actually read the book and shared some of its content with me when I was still single) just mentioned that some of the comments she was reading regarding the book were terrible, particularly, the one who called the author (as this was based on her life) "selfish for leaving her husband to just have fun and to find herself."

Now for those who don't get it... Here is the trailer. (Yes, there is an upcoming film adaptation of the book starring no less than Julia Roberts herself.)

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Finding oneself is NOT selfish. Because seriously, you can't know anyone until you know yourself. Ergo, you can't possibly know you love someone if you don't know what love is. And more often than not, you know love by how you love yourself. You learn it by living it.

(Whoa, I think I just went to the bottom of the ocean with that one, haha!)

But Hell, what do I know right? *winks*

I think after you've found yourself at the bottom of a bottle or on some stranger's bed or on yours without any recollection of how you got there looking as wretched as you do... that's when you realize that maybe, those aren't exactly the nicest places to "find" yourself in. Or to see yourself being in. And in the same rite, if you find yourself in the arms of someone who no longer makes you happy or in a house that is no longer a home or in a partnership that seems more one-sided than two... or if you find yourself just going through the motions --- complacent, stagnant, and "passively bored" (as described in Kundera's Identity) then...

*sigh*

But it's never too late to start from somewhere.

Anywhere. and Anytime. (G.G. Marquez's Love In The Time of Cholera comes to mind =)

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I'm still trying to come out with a formula to stay IN LOVE. Let me get back to y'all once I've passed the three-year mark, still energized and rejuvenated and not gasping for air. Perhaps in this lifetime and with this love, there won't be a need for "second winds"...

I'll try to make it in just one.